Should Little Girls Wear High Heels?

Isabelle is a typical girly girl, and I will never forget when she was about two years old and was trying my high heel boots on. Back then we had a good laugh, and didn’t think at all that one day I would be concerned about high heels and my lovely daughter.

It all started when I was shopping at Accessorize, and Isabelle spotted some tiny high heel shoes. I told her that little children don’t wear heels, but she dragged me to the shelf and pointed to the “gorgeous” looking high heel shoes. Let me point out, the heel was a proper high heel, a few centimetres high. I couldn’t believe my eyes. She wanted me to get her a pair of these which never happened. When I got home I talked about it with her and daddy, and he explained to her that tiny children feet shouldn’t wear high heels as that is not good for them because they are growing and need proper support which you cannot get from high heeled shoes. As Isabelle has always been a very good girl, and never argued wit us, she accepted our explanation.

A few months later, one of our neighbour’s daughters wanted to play with Isabelle, and guess what, she was wearing some high heel shoes. Isabelle looked very sad, and later on when her friend left she asked the same question. Luckily there aren’t many very young girls wearing high heel shoes, and not until last week we had to deal with the same question yet again when one of her school friends was wearing high heel shoes on a non- uniform day.

That made me very sad as Isabelle thinks she is missing out on something. Also as she is older now, she asks the question “why her friend can have them and not her. Isn’t it unhealthy for her too? ”

For me there are two reasons why I will not buy any high heel shoes for her until she is much older. The first one is obvious, and I have already mentioned here. It isn’t good for the little feet to be squeezed in high heeled shoes, and if you check online you will find so much support on this topic from doctors too. For me it is also the fact that I want my little girl to enjoy her being a child, don’t want her to be growing up even faster than she already is. She is 6 years old, why should she wear high heels? I want her to look like a little girl. I don’t want her to look older than she is.

I am not judging anyone, and I know that we all have different opinions. On the other hand, this has a negative influence on my daughter, and I just hope that she doesn’t take it the bad way, and that she knows me and daddy only want the best for her. I know the moment she will be wearing high heels shoes will come sooner or later, but I don’t want her to be rushing her childhood.

Right, that was what I think about young girls wearing high heel shoes. Now it’s your turn, what do you think?

You May Also Like


  • MummaG November 6, 2013 9:52 am

    The teen is still not allowed to wear high heels. I just don’t think it’s appropriate until they are adults so I’m with you on this x

    • Mirka November 6, 2013 1:37 pm

      I think they have mentioned girls under 12 shouldn’t wear heels, let’s see how long I will be able to keep them away from our Isabelle.

  • mylittledreamworld1 November 6, 2013 10:24 am

    I’m with you on this – my darter is only 3, almost 4 but there’s no way I will ever buy her high heels – I personally hate them even for me, I’m not going to put a child in them. She has a pair of dress up shoes which have a tiny heel and I’m not even keen on those, although I do let her play in them. This is as far as I would go. I’m quite shocked that any parent would put heels on a child as an outfit. Xxx

    • Mirka November 6, 2013 1:09 pm

      We have some dress up shoes too, and Isabelle loves playing in them sometimes. Even our 19 months Olivia loves wearing them, but I always make sure it is such for a very short time, I think she wants to be like her “big” sister.

  • Alex November 6, 2013 10:24 am

    IMHO “fashion” is the biggest cause of physical problems in women, so the later she starts on stuff like heels, the better!

    • Mirka November 6, 2013 1:10 pm

      Thanks Alex, nice to see a guy’s opinion too.

  • Mummy Matters November 6, 2013 12:53 pm

    I am totally in agreement with you, my daughter will not be wearing heels for a good few years yet. Aside from looking after her feet I do not want her to grow up too fast. Great post x

    • Mirka November 6, 2013 1:11 pm

      Thanks Sabina, that is exactly what I think.

  • Honestmum November 7, 2013 9:13 am

    Couldn’t agree more with you. Children in heels is sexualising children and it worries me. Playing in your Mum’s heels at home is one thing (I did it myself) but being out in heels is appalling. The school should ban them on no uniform days!

    • Mirka November 8, 2013 8:54 pm

      A good point as always, Vicki.

  • Sarah November 7, 2013 12:37 pm

    I totally agree with you on this. It makes me feel so sad that children are being moulded into grown-ups at such a young age. I have two boys, so this probably isn’t a topic a shall have to worry about! But I refuse to dress them in mini-me outfits, to be honest though they just wear hand me downs from my nephew and don’t seem bothered about fashion 🙂

    • Mirka November 8, 2013 8:55 pm

      There is nothing wrong withwearing hand me downs, wish we had some family or friends who would do the same for us.

  • Crystal Jigsaw November 8, 2013 11:08 am

    In a word, no. I don’t agree with little girls wearing high heels. Firstly, it causes damage to growing feet, and secondly, they look ridiculous. High heels are for older girls and adults. Fine if used in dress up playing but most definitely, my opinion is that I can’t stand to see little girls walking around in high heels.

    • Mirka November 8, 2013 8:56 pm

      I totally agree.

  • Preety Roberts November 8, 2013 12:48 pm

    I definitely 100% agree with you on this as I find the same problems with my girls and have to explained why they can’t wear. Hate the arguments regarding these issues sometimes.

    • Mirka November 8, 2013 8:57 pm

      It’s hard explaining why our girls cannot wear them when others can…isn’t it?

  • Sam November 8, 2013 8:00 pm

    I defintely agree with you. Fortunately I have two boys so I won’t have to worry about this. Unless one of them asks for a pair of course, and then I really will have a problem on my hands!

    • Mirka November 8, 2013 8:58 pm

      As long as they are healthy, that’s all that matters, doesn’t it?

  • Kate Davis November 19, 2013 11:17 pm

    I often find my 5 year old daughter wearing my heels and she occasionally asks for her own pair. She calls them clippity cloppity shoes and it turns out she likes the sound the shoes makes when I walk more than the actual heel. To take her mind off heels we allow her a pair of “party” shoes, they have been either patent or sparkly, and completely flat. I hope this will continue to work for many years.

  • Anne-Marie November 25, 2013 11:13 am

    I’d tell my daughters that yes, it is unhealthy for other children too, because it is. And I will be quite happy if they say that to their friends. It’s not a matter of opinion, it’s a fact that wearing high heels is damaging, especially for a growing child. They’re damaging for adults too (I never wear them) but adults can make an informed choice and the risks are a lot lower than for a body that’s still growing.

  • Trackback: Goodreads #17 - darktea

Leave a Reply